I told her I really want them to debride it today as it is now 2 weeks and it hasn't done this the natural way through the use of the gels and gel impregnated dressings. She agreed something else needed to be done and paged the orthopaedic surgeon.
He also agreed it needed debriding. So, they sedated Violet with Midazolam and gave nitrous oxide. Poor Emily was with me in the room as I thought this was only going to be a quick dressing change, so she helped console Violet during the whole process.
During this time, I heard the surgeon say to the nurse it is much much deeper than he had anticipated and "this is not good at all". I chose not to look at it.
He said after finishing that "he had failed us" and that "as they have caused this".
We have to go to the burns unit daily to get her dressings changed from tomorrow.
He told me once her sore heals that she will be left with a large indentation and would lose alot of feeling to that part of her foot.
In other news...school news:
I didn't let Violet go to school today based on Fridays episode. I organised an appointment with the prinicipal of the school today. My friend kindly offered to look after Violet so I could do this.
Well, his answer to the toileting incident on Friday was to finally bring out a communication book with a toileting roster in it, where the teachers aide will have to write down what times she takes Violet. I also asked her to write down how long the hoisting process takes, as she is taking far too long and I think this is having a huge impact on Violet.
He then basically moved on as if that was all there was to say about it. I brought it up again, that they had a duty of care and failed and they had denied Violet of her basic human rights. He did not agree. He said all children have accidents. I said Violet is depending on an adult (her aide) to toilet her and she had never done this in all the years of being toilet trained. The fact it went unnoticed was a whole other issue.
He claims, I have told him that I want the aide gone because she is pretty and wears nice clothes...complete lies! I have told him that wearing the shoes that she has been wearing and short skirts are not practical when hoisting and being an aide for a child with special needs.
He claims, all the staff feel threatened by me. This I don't understand. I have never been threatening in any way.
He claims, I have called all his staff liars. I only said Violet's teacher was lying about taking her out of the wheelchair in the classroom week before last as Violet had told me she had 2 teenager girls that were in the classroom doing reading group had helped take her out too. Her teacher claims she only took her out. Hard to believe when Violet weighs 26kg's and I have enough trouble lifting her AND Violet told me who took her out. She is to remain in her wheelchair all day until further notice from the hospital as they well know.
He claims, I have threatened him. I asked him in what way and he said that I have told him I would go over his head if need be.
Well of course I will write letters etc if the school will not listen to me and give Violet the care she needs and deserves.
I told him if he thinks I said all those things etc then we would have to start voice recording our appointments as I did not agree with him on any of his claims. He said he already was writing it all down today. I said you haven't asked for my permission to do that, which he answered with, you are in my office so I can do that anyway.
There is one thing I can not stand and that is people using bits and pieces I have said and using them out of context.
He even said that Violet would probably have another toileting accident as most children do.
He said the staff were all scared of me and that I need to build a bridge and meet them half way. Also making sure I greet all the staff when at school.
The aide does not apparently have to acknowledge Violet as they all say good morning as a class.
Apparently, the aide is just a teachers aide, not special needs teachers aide.
So, now I don't know what to do. I was in tears after all those accusations came out about what he claims I said.
I even had a call while at hospital this morning saying that the aide was not able to come in today and that Violet was still allowed to come to school but they would need me to do the toileting.
She will not be attending school for the rest of this week anyway due to her dressings she needs and the meds to do these.
I think looking at a new school and maybe a private school is the next step.