Friday afternoon, Violet came home from school saturated in Pi$s.
She has NEVER done this since being toilet trained unless she was having a seizure/post Botox and it sure as hell wasn't either of those reasons!
I rang the Principal when I got home, but no answer. So I rang the Disability Itinerant Support Lady from DET and she rang the Principal to let him know and then she rang me back.
I asked her if the principal had apologised on behalf of the aide and he hadn't! This disappointed me further.
She said he would get the teachers aide to take her to the toilet more than she does. Well at the start of this week, the Principal had already advised the teachers aide to toilet her more often as I told him Violet was holding on and busting when she got home from school to go to the toilet.
I saw the teachers aide at 1pm Friday when I was at the school administering Violet's AB's (as I don't trust them doing that) and she said to me she would be taking Violet to the toilet at 1.40 when they had their next break, to see if she needed to go. Well, Emily and Violet both told me she didn't take her! Maybe the fact that it takes this aide close to 1 hour to hoist Violet onto the toilet that makes Violet hold on instead?
Thru my tears...I told her I was at the end of my tether and they have a duty of care to my child and they had failed! I also said the public school system is failing her miserably! I don't know who to turn to, as I seem to be banging my head against a wall and no one is willing to help me. I seem to have no rights as a mother. I told this Disability Itinerant Support lady that I felt she was on the schools side, being DET staff aswell, when she should be a mediator between us both and remain neutral.
I could not stop crying Friday night as I feel I have failed her as a mother, leaving her in their care, when it is so damn obvious they are not coping!
I am trying to put in writing a complaint to the school, principals superior and the local MP, so any tips in letter writing would be greatly appreciated, as I feel too emotionally involved to write properly.