Just one day I would like to go out….just one day… somewhere that people don’t stare at Violet, and I don’t mean stare quickly...I mean prolonged stares!
I have posted about this before and how it effects her here
I did a quiet survey the other day while at the shops where I thought it would be interesting to count just how many people did these prolonged stares and in half an hour Emily and I counted 82 people! That is ridiculous and down right unnecessary! Even just before we left a boy with his Mum was running to keep up with Violet’s stroller and was shouting as loud as he could “Mum have you seen her face, Mum have you seen her face, Mum I know what’s wrong with her face” I could have decked him! Meanwhile Violet is leaning back as far as she can in her stroller and turning her face away to avoid letting him see her any longer.
Although I never let Violet see it or hear it, this hurts me to the core when people stare and make comments that are hurtful and unnecessary. It hurts me because I am Violet’s Mum and it hurts me because this is not what any child should have to deal with ever…let alone on this scale!
Violet is very wary of other children and how they see her. She first mentioned this to me when she was just 3. She is still not keen on making any friends at preschool and I really feel this has a huge impact on why. She makes excuses not to go to the shops these days and when I ask her why, she says because people stare at me. Sad isn’t it!
I did mention to her Psychologist at our appointment last Tuesday that I think Violet is struggling with this and it is having a huge impact on her. Sad to think it’s most likely only going to get worse once she starts school next year.
At our school funding meeting yesterday the lady from DET said that kids are quite accepting these days, but from our experiences so far I can not disagree more. Given the area we live in of Western Sydney, my fears of people being unaccepting and their disgusting behaviour was again sadly confirmed last night when a young man in a wheelchair was savagely attacked at Mt Druitt Train Station. This is our local area and where they want Violet to look at schools first.